Thanksgiving can often be turkey and food centered, and I’d like to offer a gentle encouragement to you in order to refocus our attention to create a people-centered and God-centered feast. I hope you will find these suggestions to be helpful:
Dine at the table. One of my favorite scenes from the movie “The Blind Side” is when Michael Oher sits down alone at the table on Thanksgiving while his adopted family is gathered around the television watching the game. They soon recognize their oversight and join him at the table and enjoy a wonderful meal and time together. It’s family time that Michael has always dreamed of. Why not take this cue as well? Set a beautiful table. It doesn’t have to be extravagant. When you take time to set the table and make it special, you communicate to your guests of all ages, “You are special.” The most important part of the place setting is the person who is sitting in front of it. Offer a word of welcome at the table. This simple expression communicates great value. Stand up as host or hostess (or both) at the table and thank everyone for coming and look every person in the eye. You could say something like: “On this special Thanksgiving day, we are gathered together as friends and family. We are so glad each of you is here. Thank you for coming!”. Express it in your own words. Say Grace. Grace is a beautiful tradition. It is offered at the beginning of the meal because it is the priority of it. It is the essential act of Thanksgiving. Though we can get into a rut about saying grace, the best table prayers are heartfelt and thoughtful. Tailor it by your own expression. You can also ask a guest (ahead of time!) to offer grace. Here is one suggestion: “Lord, we want to thank you this Thanksgiving Day for the daily provisions and blessings You have lavished upon each of us and that we often fail to recognize. May we be truly humble and grateful. Thank you for the gift of family and friends gathered here today. Amen.” Focus the Conversation-the centerpiece of the table. Conversation means personal connection. No doubt you will learn interesting things about your guests that will lead to future conversations Let's remember that if we do not intentionally direct conversation, it will take its own course which can be disappointing and disrupting. When conversation is directed, it also helps to ease possible tension at the table. When it seems like an appropriate time, try using printed questions to kindle conversation. Make them child-friendly. I like to place these written questions in a unique container to pass around, or you can place them under the dinner or dessert plate. Here are a couple of ideas to get you started: · What is something that is easy to take for granted? · What do you appreciate about your family, friends, work, school, etc. · What makes it challenging to be thankful today? · Why do you think it was so important to celebrate that first Thanksgiving feast? What were they so thankful for? And lastly, greet and say good bye to each person. Happy Thanksgiving!
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Today is St. Patrick's Day. I'm sitting down to a cup of tea, Irish Breakfast, of course. While you are putting on the green today, and are perhaps sharing your boiled dinner fare, why not grace your table with a special toast, grace or Irish blessing to enhance your mealtime? Here are a few ideas for you as well as a beautiful house blessing, that I have hanging in my own home. Toast: I lift my glass to one and all, To oldest and wisest, to the youngest and small, Welcome to our Irish feast, Adorned with potatoes and Cornish beast, Thank you for coming from {Concord}* to Cork, Now please lower your glass and raise your fork! --Lisa Steigerwalt *substitute your own town Grace: Be present at our table Lord, Be here and everywhere adored. We thank You for the feast before us, The friends among us, the love between us. For all the blessings of this day, We rejoice, give thanks and pray. --LS arrangement from traditional opening lines A House Blessing: God bless the corners of this house, And be the lintel blest, And bless the hearth and bless the board And bless each place of rest; And bless the door that opens wide to stranger as to kin; And bless each crystal window pane That lets the starlight in And bless the rooftree overhead and every sturdy wall; The peace of man, the peace of God, The peace of love on all. --Franciscan Sisters |
Lisa Steigerwalt
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January 2014
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